DIRECT COMMUNICATION LEADS TO SUCCESSFUL INTERACTIONS

You start telling someone your idea and they jump in to finish your sentences. You pause because what they're saying doesn't take your idea and thoughts in the direction you want to go.

You're trying to process your thoughts and bring forth your own clarity. You simply wanted them to be your sounding board, your mirror, your support.

Now you just want them to stop inserting their own opinions which are intruding on your flow.

Frustration is mounting. You're shutting down, wilting, backing away, or leaning in and raising your voice in attempt to gain control.

You were eager for this time with them and expected you would walk away with clarity, direction, a plan. However...

• THEY have jumped in and interrupted your train of thought.
• YOU are frustrated, shut down, and give up on them as someone to process and brainstorm with.
• YOU haven't effectively communicated your expectation. Oops...
• THEY are confused by your reaction and mixed messages.

Instead of wishing you would never have asked them to join you... Start setting up situations like this for success. Directly communicate your expectations for a fulfilling and successful exchange!

Do your best to clearly communicate your request to the other person. Ask if they are willing and available to participate in the way that will be most helpful to your process. Together, you'll move forward with the interaction where and when it works for you both.

Leveling up your communication can be a challenge. Many women are forthcoming and direct in conversations about anything except asking for help.

With this in mind, I encourage my clients to resolve and overcome beliefs that limit them, such as "Asking for help makes you weak and vulnerable", "Never let them see you sweat" or "Making it all about me is selfish."

I help women resolve these old tapes and beliefs that block them from speaking up and cultivating respect. You can effectively communicate without being a bitch. You can have both power and compassion at the same time. You can get your needs met. I can help you - click here.

Most importantly, you'll grow as a professional. You'll know who you can trust with your ideas. You will cultivate relationships who will serve this role for you.

Surround yourself with people who listen, appreciate your clear and direct requests, tell the truth about their availability to meet your expectation.

The ones who agree to participate in the way that's most helpful to you in the given circumstance.

I can attest that my day ahead will go very well as I have 100% communicated what I need and want and a colleague has 100% agreed to help me with something. Interactions like these are POWERFUL.

When you share your wants, needs and expectations AND you get confirmation from the other person that they will help you - your conversations and interactions will be powerful and successful.

Laura Easton, LMSW, ACC | Executive Coach + Organizational Consultant