STOP CREATING STRESS + COMPOUNDING YOUR CHAOS

WHAT IT FEELS AND LOOKS LIKE

Overwhelmed, you add even more to your list – creating more stress and anxiety. Feeling intense pressure to perform, produce and do all the things on today’s list breeds stress and compounds chaos.

Yet, you keep doing things the same way, trying to get a different result. To no avail. Stress and chaos are unsettling. It becomes harder to be intentional and make good choices.

You look good, put together and effortlessly successful. But old habits are creeping in – you’re getting more controlling and being nicer (as in the opposite of being honest and speaking up for yourself).

You shut out those closest to you because they can see that you’re unraveling. When you’re being honest, you can feel your discomfort. You’re aware that your wheels are spinning – the stress is taking a toll on you mentally, emotionally and physically. Your health is paying a price.

HOW YOU CREATE STRESS + COMPOUND CHAOS

You let your self-care go. You’re so busy, there’s no time to pack your lunch, sit down for a home-cooked meal with family, spend time in gratitude, call a friend back – much less eat good-for-you food, move your body, pray or meditate. You spend no time planning or setting yourself up for success.

There is no end to your ever-expanding list – ever – leaving you no way to win, finish, feel successful.

Under this kind of pressure, your body is working overtime to handle the stress. Your anxiety is rising, your negative thoughts are racing and you’re beating yourself up (or sneaking back to bed).

You show up at work restless, irritable and discontent. Your thoughts are loud now – internally spewing negativity and critical self-talk. They know how you feel – they see your reactivity and grumpy behavior. You’re disorganized and chaotic despite your attempt to control your environment.

You pile more onto your plate and add to your list. Overwhelmed by your workload, an unexpected trigger, imposter syndrome, health scare, or the need to be in three places at once – you take on more.

You secretly expect yourself to be superwoman. You say “yes” when you so desperately want to say “no.” Your body is begging you to stop and relax; your mind is pleading with you to slow down.”

You stop effectively delegating and asking for help. This is where your competent and self-managing adult yields to the victim (or martyr). “No one can do it as fast as I can… I’ll just do it myself. Then it’ll be done right” “Who has time to take a break? I’ve got to get my list done. Everyone, out of my way!”

Doing it all – all by yourself – leads to many problems, such as reaching for old behaviors, detaching from your support group, getting burnout and running off your staff because you don’t trust them. When you are this stressed out, you think they’re incompetent, which – by the way – they feel every bit of…ouch. This goes for your significant other and kids, too.

You take a heavy burden on and expect perfection from yourself. Your schedule includes perfect eating, a tough workout, and more tasks than even two people could handle. You believe that “Today is the day! I’ll never procrastinate again!”

You’ve stopped asking for help in your daily life – chores, the house, the kids, family time, grocery shopping, cooking and going to work. No wonder you tell yourself there’s no time for self-care! When you don’t get everything on your list done, you disappoint yourself.

Feels toxic and terrible – right?

WILL POWER AIN’T THE ANSWER

If you rely on sheer will power for an adrenalin boost to pull off the impossible day – just know that, for most humans, will power doesn’t last long. You’ll wind up letting yourself down soon enough.

You know how that goes – it’s your cycle. Notice those around you reaching for their noise-cancelling headphones or sneaking out the back door. You can turn this around (change), and I can help you.

I once told a therapist that I hated being fragile. To me, fragile meant that I had to spend my otherwise valuable time doing things like exercising, eating “right,” going to doctor visits, having work/life balance. I resented that I wasn’t born with some gene that naturally, automatically makes a person eat to live and think workouts are mandatory. Someone who is perfect and never drops a ball or procrastinates. Why wasn’t I just one of those perfectly metabolized people who always looked right?

HOW TO TURN THIS AROUND

The REMEDY – for all of the stress I created and compounded for myself by staying stuck, self-sabotaging, buying into cultural lies and consistently disappointing myself – all came down to SELF-CARE.

For me, it was working with life coaches when I truly turned this around – WOW, it’s where I found emotional freedom. I take good care of myself these days and help other women learn to do the same. Resolving the stress and stopping the self-created chaos and drama in your life is essential.

DESIGN YOUR NON-NEGOTIABLE SELF-CARE PLAN

If you are sick and tired of not staying stopped when you quit a bad habit, I can help you. When you do the work to clear away what’s keeping you stuck and revisit old behaviors, you’ll design a non-negotiable self-care routine and develop unshakeable self-esteem.

Self-care is essential if you want to create a life that you want to live. If you’re not getting what you want in life, schedule a time with me. Let this be YOUR TURNING POINT.

Bring your hurts and regrets, anger and disappointments, shame and fear. Oh, and don’t forget your heart’s desire! (This session is 100% confidential and all about you!)

DIVE IN, BRAVE AND WORTHY ONE. YOU WILL SOON THRIVE WITH SELF-RESPECT, CONFIDENCE AND ABUNDANCE.