IF SPEAKING UP ROCKS THE BOAT, THEN START ROCKING

Let’s talk about what happens when you don’t speak up about what you want, where you like to go, what you like to do. When you say yes when you mean no (and saying no is out of the question).

How do you feel when you allow other people to make decisions that aren’t exactly what you’d like? Do you go along to get along and feel more comfortable following their lead?

Do you have a sense that you may be keeping the peace, concerned what they might think of you if you express an opinion that differs from theirs?

You may have the belief that rocking the boat would signal “no second date” or “you’re fired.”

Questions to ask yourself, if you’re trying to play The Cool Chick (like I did in my non-work relationships):

• Do you like being thought of as flexible, laid back, easy to be around?
• Are you more comfortable not rocking the boat?
• Do you like being flexible and going along with whatever they want?
• Do you play The Cool Chick, loving everything they love, because that way they’ll stay?

If you’re truly happy staying quiet, letting them decide – keep doing what you’re doing. I will caution you, though, that giving them your proxy won’t guarantee they’ll stay.

And if you’re applying this to professional situations, staying small and being a “yes” person – you likely won’t hold the respect for long from the people you’re trying to impress.

While you may appear to be laid back, do you secretly desire to do more of what you want to do, watch shows you enjoy, visit places on your bucket list or say no to hanging out with their friends tonight?

If not rocking the boat leaves you perturbed, a bit depressed, sluggish, tired and irritable… If you’re thinking about breaking up, walking off the job or emotionally punishing them because they just don’t get you, have no clue how full your plate is or think about anyone but themselves…

HOLD ON A MINUTE, SISTER. THIS IS SOMETHING YOU GET TO CHANGE!

At this point, if just thinking about having to speak up to express yourself is scaring the sh^t out of you – join the club! NOTE: This is a club you’ll resign from once you do your work. Find a trustworthy, qualified and likeable life coach who understands that there’s more going on here than meets the eye. There’s a growing movement of women joining, healing, learning to rock the boat – and then quitting the club.

A Trustworthy, Qualified & Likeable Life Coach

YOU MAY SUFFER FROM THE LIMITING BELIEF, “IF I SAY ‘NO’ OR CHALLENGE THEM IN ANY WAY, THEY’LL LEAVE (OR I’LL BE FIRED).”

If you’re honest and admit to yourself that you’re keeping the peace in all of your relationships by avoiding vulnerability and conflict, hiding in your nonconfrontational comfort – there is hope! Own that your thoughts and beliefs are holding you back, keeping you stuck and – and hurting you emotionally.

I’m here to tell you that it is absolutely possible to resolve your limiting beliefs and quiet the lies you tell yourself when you’re feeling down, ashamed, scared and unworthy. My challenge to you:

DO THE WORK TO CHANGE YOUR “I’M NOT WORTHY (OF THEM)” STORY. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH EXACTLY AS YOU ARE. THAT OLD BELIEF IS A BIG FAT LIE.

You don’t have to take my word for it. Ask your healthy and emotionally available friends and colleagues if they are drawn to women who don’t have opinions, wants or needs – women who say yes when they mean no. My hunch is they’ll encourage you to get help to heal old tapes and wounds so you can learn how to safely express yourself – in all areas of your life.

HOW – you may ask – will you ever figure out how to speak up without jumping out of your skin? (Fair warning… It probably includes you being vulnerable.)

Spend an hour with me. I invite you to bring your hurts and heart, your fears and disappointments, your shame, skepticism and old wounds. Let’s spend meaningful time together that is 100% confidential and all about you. Oh, and bring your heart’s desire, too!

It’s easy to book a call with me. Give yourself the gift of one hour that costs you nothing and gives you the key to your emotional freedom and utter happiness! I can only promise this because it’s worked for me. Don’t pass up this opportunity to choose to engage in your ONE life.

Join the recovering cool chicks.