HOW UNWORTHINESS CAN FEEL SAFE β BUT ITβS NOT!
When your inner critic is tuning up to tear you down, she may start off sounding somewhat rational, “I just don’t want to dry my hair and put on makeup tonight. I’m tired…”
As you’re vacillating about going to a networking event or a party… she digs in with, “I won’t be cute enough to fit in anyway,” and follows that with, “THEY won’t even notice I’m not there… Besides, who would I talk to anyway – and what about? I need to impress this crowd – and I sure shouldn’t show up looking like this.”
Nodding in agreement, you whisper. “I guess it’s better for them to think I’m too busy to go than it would be to show up looking bad and feeling like a loser.”
And then the crowning blow, “No one will care if I’m there. I don’t even belong in this crowd. They always get what they want. They’re the ones who are seen, heard, and valued. I’m actually not worthy of fitting in and being happy. My best bet is to stay safe and hide at home.”
Arm-in-arm with your inner critic, you head toward the freezer, which offers something she promises will be soothing, “Let’s hunker down in p-jays with some ice cream – surely there’s something streaming that’s binge-worthy.”
And the precious part of you who is deeply triggered and steeped in shame quietly responds, “I might as well stay home, especially because I’m so stupid and ugly, and nobody wants to hear what I have to say.”
YOU’RE UNAWARE OF HOW LONELY YOU FEEL AND OF WHAT TRIGGERED YOUR SHAME – BUT IT FEELS AN AWFUL LOT LIKE YOUR “I’M NOT WORTHY” STORY. OUCH!
If you can relate to any of this, my heart goes out to you… I know first-hand how painful (and prevalent) it is to feel unworthy, unlovable, unimportant – and to not feel seen, heard, or valued.
THE GREATEST GIFT I CAN OFFER YOU IS THE TRUTH:
You no longer have to feel unworthy. There is a way to stop your downward spiral and to, in fact, thrive with worthiness, self-esteem and confidence.
You ARE worthy!
Helping people (just like you) understand and live from the belief they are worthy is my passion and calling. My coaching clients are doing the work to resolve their inner critic’s lies and limiting beliefs, heal shame – and believe in, feel and live from their undeniable worthiness. Their results are amazing!
YOU HAVE A GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY TO GET AWESOME RESULTS, TOO!
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I help women who believe and behave like they’re unworthy. Working together, my clients own their worthiness so they can live an abundant, meaningful, and joyful life. I am a consultant, certified life coach, licensed master social worker, and worthy woman – and want to help you work through what’s keeping you small and thinking you’re unworthy.
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