ENJOY YOUR LIFE WITHOUT SACRIFICING YOURSELF

Are you ready to grow up, grow out of, grow from? To heal, resolve, stop, start, say no or no more? To say yes to self-care, balance and connection?

The tendency to self-sabotage comes from childhood. There, I said it.

To stop sabotaging and start enjoying (without sacrifice) is much easier said than done. 

Perhaps you keep yourself stuck by over-drinking, drugging, working, being too busy for self-care, eating, exercising, bingeing on mindless TV streaming, shopping or relationship behaviors?

Self-soothing by addiction is a NO-WIN situation. Stopping takes more than knowledge, pain, desire, being right, and knowing what's bad and what's best for you. 

It takes personal growth work and commitment to continue growing.

• Get into some kind of recovery from self-soothing in destructive ways.
• Learn about the impact of your actions on yourself and others.
• Get honest with yourself and be accountable for your behaviors to yourself and to others.

Coming clean and getting current in your day-to-day life is the simple part. It's what you still do, think, act and feel - after all that - that will bring you to coaching. (This is also my story.)

Watching yourself sacrifice self-care, time, paid days off, hobbies, connection with others, energy and money to people-please, advance in your career, get the guy, avoid judgment from the other moms at your kids' school. Fill in the blank! OUCH. ERGH. UGH. DANG. NO WONDER.

The solution to stop your self-sabotage starts with resolving beliefs and negative messages that limit you, keep you small, encourage you to people-please and stay stuck in a vicious cycle. The stuff still inside your body, mind, spirit and soul leads to your reactivity (which leads to shame) and blocks you from enjoying life. You are sacrificing yourself as a way to self-soothe - and it's not working.

It's absolutely possible to stop the madness. Get help and quit skipping opportunities right in front of you so you can live the life you really want. You have choices. Join other motivated and successful women who are doing this work right now. Support is essential.

Once you stop the self-sabotage, the enjoying your life part happens. It's like a wonderful wind has cleared the crap and filled you with freedom and joy.

Won't you join me here where the sky is blue and the water's calm...